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Anger and Disappointment in Intimacy: Paths to Healing, CC 8/16

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David Bullard, PhD
Zesho Susan O'Connell
Article—Three People in a Room: Dr. David Bullard on Couples in Therapy
with Dr. David Bullard and Zesho Susan O'Connell
in the Conference Center at 308 Page Street

Sunday, August 16, 2015  
10 am - 4 pm

(CE credits available—see note* below)

Disappointments, arguments and fights, feeling misunderstood and distant from one another, getting or giving the “silent treatment”—we often find these dynamics woven into interactions with the family, friends and partners we love and care for.

This workshop will provide roadmaps for having healing conversations after the breakdowns created by disappointment or anger in intimacy. We will examine roadblocks to closeness and the healing that deep listening provides, together with other specific ways to help us break through the impasses often experienced in emotionally close relationships. In addition to discussion, we will use group and dyadic exercises and brief personal writing to help us become more present and to increase resilience after reactivity and defensiveness, all while deepening our wisdom and compassion.

Together we will study how to better engage and embody relevant Zen practices, paired with practical teachings learned from many years of helping couples have deeper conversations and healing.

Singles as well as couples, therapists and non-ists are most welcome.

Fees: $100; $90 current SFZC members; $80 limited income.
*Note about CE credits: Six CE credits available for MFTs, LCSWs, psychologists and nurses. The $30 fee can be paid at the time of registration. San Francisco Zen Center and the Spiritual Competency Resource Center (SCRC) have teamed together to offer CE credit to MFTs, LCSWs, psychologists and nurses. SCRC offers CE credit to MFTs and LCSWs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences (provider #PCE1851). SCRC is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education activities for psychologists. SCRC maintains responsibility for these programs and their content. SCRC also offers CE credit to nurses (California Board of Registered Nursing Provider #CEP11909). For complete information visit spiritualcompetency.com or contact David Lukoff, PhD, at 707-763-3576. For more information, please contact our Programming Department at programassist@sfzc.org.

To Register: Use the Register Online button above. Or call our toll free number (888.743.9362) or our local number (415.475.9362).

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Testimonials: What People Are Saying about David & Susan's Workshops

"I gained much understanding about my own personal anger and liked being with the people in the group"

"Flow of the day: beautiful complementing dynamic of Susan and David. I gained a lot, and had a helpful intimate experience by being in the dyad with my partner."

"Wisdom meets practical tools and real life application. :-)
Great blend of 'ultimate versus conventional;' I was nourished."

"I really liked the participation of the group."

"I enjoyed the whole experience!"

"I found the techniques very useful for talking to a partner about difficult situations/disappointments."

"It was very useful to be able to listen to the Zen and psychological perspectives
about both the inner experience and the relational aspects of anger."

Related Bio(s):

David Bullard, PhD
David has had a psychotherapy practice in San Francisco with individuals and couples for over 35 years, and enjoys writing and providing workshops about couples and intimacy for other therapists and health professionals. He is grateful for having had the opportunity of learning about Tibetan Buddhism from Robert Thurman , and about the poetry of life from David Whyte. He is clinical professor in medicine and medical psychology (psychiatry) at UCSF.

Zesho Susan O'Connell
Zesho Susan O'Connell is a Zen teacher with 25 years of meditation experience. She has lived at Zen Center since 1995, was ordained as a priest in 1999 by Tenshin Reb Anderson, and currently serves as president. She started, with two other partners, her own business as an independent feature film producer with offices in San Francisco and L.A., and continued that business for 25 years. She has helped to produce over 10 video/film projects about Zen Center and its teachers.